a lot of african women are literally like sex dolls

It’s been a recent trend for African women to be likened to sex dolls and it’s frankly a disheartening discussion. The discussion implies that women are mere objects and it’s quite frankly a damning sweep generalization that does not take into consideration all the attributes that women bring to any relationship. What’s more is that this discussion often pays no attention to the African women who barely even get to enter the discussion to begin with.

I can only ponder on why anyone would think that an African woman is like a sex doll to begin with. This is not the first time I have encountered such a discussion and whenever it’s brought to the table people seem to have no qualms voicing their opinions and even though it may often begin as a joke the underlying danger is that these types of conversations can quickly become quite serious. In the past I have even heard it alleged that older African men cannot enter any sort of real relationship without almost turning it into some form of a transactional back and forth which puts African women in a liable and vulnerable position.

The thing is, sex dolls African women are strong, capable and independent individuals. They have needs, feelings, ideas and opinions and bringing them down to a mere “thing” takes way more than away their value as individuals. I speak as an African male who believes that African women head strong and are not laughing matters whatsoever. African men want to put them on a pedestal and what I am seeing is that African men are not looking at African women as partners but rather toys and that’s why this discussion is so dangerous.

It’s about time African women were considered on the same level as any other woman around the world. They are strong, ambitious and have values which unfortunately have been taken away from them by being objectified in such a way. I believe that African women should be respected, no matter what transpires and I understand the challenges that they have to face to be seen as the strong and powerful individuals that they are. They should be given the same rights as any other human being on this planet.

I know I’m speaking a bit harshly here and there can be some cultural and historic views behind this whole discussion. I’m referring to the obvious where African women often have to obey their male counterparts due to cultural and traditional pressures. However, I believe that African women should at least be entitled to the same respect and justice that is bestowed onto other women in the world. I’m not trying to sound angry but angry I am, if people are trying to explain that African women are nothing more than sex dolls.

What sort of message are we really trying to send out here? That African women should stay indoors, be submissive and do nothing but serve their male counterparts? That is an outdated view of society that refuses to change with the times. African women should be respected for who they are and what they can bring to the table. A relationship should be based on trust, mutual respect and understanding. African women should be encouraged to express themselves, their ideas and their ambition. No one should be holding them back, no matter the relationship.

When it comes to African women, the best thing that can be done is to encourage them to be the best versions of themselves and it starts with respect. African women have immense power and potential that should not be limited by anyone who chooses to diminish their validity. We need to start talking about African women is a positive light and keep her autonomy intact. Don’t put them in boxes – they a limitless in what they can do with their lives and it is down to us to nurture that potential.

Still, it feels like I even failed to properly him just how much of an insult it is to equate African women with sex dolls. What’s worse is that the conversation keeps ongoing and there don’t seem to be enough voices standing up to end the comparison. Everyone should be bawling out from the rooftops that such discussions are wrong and incomplete and I can only hope that African women continue to be seen as the strong and capable individuals that they are.

I truly believe that African women should be entitled to all the same rights as anyone else and no one should be made to feel like an object or like they have to live in someone’s shadow. Whether it be the bedroom or at the workplace, African women need to be protected and their rights respected. Let’s create an environment that it is welcoming and fair to African women and ensure they can explore their ambitions to their fullest capacity.

To echo the words of the late Nobel Peace Prize winner, Wangari Maathai, “Once you make the connection with the environment and see that what you do affects the environment, your community and your family, then you have the conscience of wanting to do something that’s going to make a difference and hopefully better your life.” We should all strive to make a difference for African women – by respecting and recognizing them as the strong individuals that they are.