My story begins with how I thought male masturbation was something I had to do in private and kept hidden. I never talked about it with my friends or family or even to strangers. But it’s something every guy does, and I think it’s time to open up and discuss it more openly.
When it comes to the act itself, it’s really pretty straightforward. Most guys use their hands to fondle their penis and testicles, while some use special toys, such as a vibrator or other device. The goal is usually to bring yourself close to orgasm without actually reaching it, kind of like an edging session. It can feel extremely pleasurable, and it can also help you build some staying power during sex.
Some guys swear by setting the mood. Whether that’s taking a hot shower, playing some of your favorite tunes, or lighting a few candles – whatever makes you feel relaxed and comfortable. You can also try visualization, where you let your imagination explore your sexual fantasies without any guilt or shame.
Of course, not all guys feel comfortable doing this with themselves. If you do feel that way, there are more and more great products on the market that can provide you with great sensations and sensation-focused sensations. Think of Fleshlight: a silicone sleeve shaped to fit your penis that can provide intense stimulation. Companies like Dame also have clitoral vibrators and prostate massagers for solo masturbation sessions.
Then as far as position goes, it really comes down to what feels best for you. Some guys swear by lying on their back, while others prefer to stand or even kneel. Experiment, find what works for you.
Finally, don’t forget the lube! Most guys find the addition of lube a game-changer when it comes to pleasure. It can also help reduce friction, and there are a wide variety of lubes available depending on your skin type.
So next time you are looking for ways to pleasure yourself, try something different! Change up the positions, add some lube or even some toys and see what works. Planning can help make masturbation an even more enjoyable experience.
I’ve also found that couples who spend more time exploring each other’s bodies and creating new ways to stimulate each other have a much more satisfying sex life. That’s why I recently decided to talk to my partner about masturbating together, and I kid you not: it was one of the hottest and most stimulating experiences we’ve ever had!
At first, my girlfriend was a bit apprehensive, but after I explained that we would be able to learn more about each other’s preferences and discover ways to bring each other an even greater pleasure, she was definitely on board. We started off slow, massaging and teasing each other, and then gradually built up to a more intense session.
It was a lot of fun to share and explore each other’s bodies, and it definitely made my partner a lot more comfortable with the idea of masturbating. I would definitely encourage couples to do this.
Moreover, I strongly suggest using lube to make solo or partner play even better. Lubricants can increase your pleasure during sex, as well as warm up your body and make it easier for fingers or toys to glide during masturbation. There are lots of different kinds of lubes on the market, so I’d suggest experimenting to find what works best for you.
While masturbating alone may be an old standby, adding mutual masturbation into the mix can definitely make it more exciting. Not only is it great for exploring and building trust during sex toys, but it can build up anticipation and make orgasms more pleasurable.
Also, talking openly about masturbation can be extremely rewarding. Knowing that your partner feels safe and secure talking about pleasure, whether it’s with others or just with you, can make the experience even better. So I’d definitely encourage partners to open up, get honest, and work towards having those important conversations.
Lastly, don’t forget that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to masturbation. It’s always important to take into account your own comfort level, body, and needs. And whatever it is you’re doing in the bedroom, knowing how to make it even more enjoyable is essential.