Ground rules first – both my wife and I are in complete agreement that we’re both free to explore our sexuality and she’s given me the green light to try a dildo with her, vibrators so let’s get started.
The first thing I did was to research the types of dildos that were available and to get an opinion on which ones would be best for us a couple. After reading what I could find, I concluded we should start off with something pretty basic yet sleek and elegant. I opted for the best dual-motion and vibration dildo I could find and, although I was a bit apprehensive, I just knew my wife would love it.
After I made the purchase, I started thinking about how to get her to accept and use the dildo with me. I knew it wouldn’t be something she’d be ‘jumping’ at, so it was important to make her feel special and sexy. Knowing that she likes surprises, I decided to wait until the day we were alone in the bedroom before I presented the gift.
When I gave it to her, she hesitantly took it in her hands and said “What is this?” I replied with a smile and said, “It’s a little something to spice up our bedroom activities, I think you’ll really like it”. She giggled and said, “OK, I think I’ll give it a try”. Yay! Success!
Once we got to the bedroom, I lit some candles and turned on some seductive music to set the mood. I started things off by giving her a full body massage using the dildo and exploring all of the different vibration and pulsation settings. She couldn’t get enough! We ended up having an amazing session and afterwards she said it was actually quite enjoyable.
I think part of the success was that I made sure not to be too overbearing with the dildo. Sure, I surprised her with it, but she was able to let go of her inhibitions and just enjoy it. I guess the key with a new experience like this is to make sure both people are comfortable and feel special.
Next, I need to find out what other accessories we can get to make our bedroom experiences really special! I’m thinking about not only getting other toys, but also investing in some interesting lingerie sets. The possibilities are endless!